So there’s an old joke that goes something like this.
One day in Rome the Pope is sitting in his study and a group of his closest cardinals burst through the door shaking and pale. The Pope sees their concern and asks them what’s wrong. They reply that God is on the phone. The Pope says “that’s wonderful, why are you so frightened?” The cardinals respond, “She’s mad.”
One of the basic tenets of humour is that you give your audience something unexpected, and the reason this joke works is because God is a ‘he’, right? Now when it’s a joke people laugh and move on. But what happens if you suggest that God is a she in a forum other than humour? Just ask Eliel Cruz, a writer who covers issues of faith and sexuality and a voice I strongly recommend listening to, about some of the responses to a piece he wrote in which he referred to God as she. Closer to home you could ask my wife (whose painting, photography and sketching can be found at http://kiamsaco.deviantart.com/) about the response to her posting of a quote on our church’s facebook page in which God was referred to in the feminine.
After talking to these people you can see that there are a range of responses, some incredibly positive – but many very, very negative. There is a very hostile attitude toward references to God in the feminine from traditional Christians. It’s a hostility I can, to a point, understand. After all the references to God as masculine are very obvious in scripture, while the references to God as feminine are fewer and often entirely obscured in English since our nouns don’t have a gender. Jesus was a man, he referred to his father, and the pronouns from Genesis to Revelation are masculine. We were brought up with the notion that God was a he. To this day my default pronoun for God, and that of most people with whom I speak, is still he; and I think that is rather harmless. The problem is not in picking a pronoun for God, that’s something language requires of us. The problem is when our picking of a pronoun warps our view of God.
You see, while we refer to God as he – God is not a man.
Jesus, who those of us with a Christian perspective pretty much have to agree has the best knowledge of who God is, says very clearly that God is spirit. Also we can go back to the very beginning and see that both male and female were created in God’s image. Beyond these fairly obvious readings that should bring us right out of the need for a debate of God’s sex, there are a large number of references to God as Mother in the Old Testament and in Hebrew there are a number of occasions where the word for God is grammatically feminine. This is not to say that God is a woman, God is spirit.
The problem as I see it is that we are, as always, trying to define the divine in human terms. We’ve got the whole thing backwards! We ascribe masculinity (or femininity) to God, when what we should be doing is finding the fingerprints of divinity in women and men. God doesn’t embody masculine or feminine traits – humans have the image of God in ourselves. God is perfection, we are the ones with traits and characteristics of it. She doesn’t have our traits, we have his.
Where our problem becomes an issue isn’t in a debate over which pronoun to use for God, both work and both are biblically appropriate. The problem is when we mistake our linguistic need for pronouns, for God being limited to our understanding of masculinity and femininity. When we insist that God is a man, we exclude many wonderful aspects of divinity that are expressed in typically feminine qualities. When we insist that God is man we exclude our mothers, wives, sisters and woman-friends from the image of God they deserve. When we insist that God is a man we limit our thinking of the powerful ministries godly women can and should perform. When we insist that God is a man we end up with the Mark Driscolls of the world.
We need to be able to see God in spirit and in truth, and we need to be able to see her image in her daughters as much as we see his image in his sons. We also need to be able to be free to change our approach. God as a father can be a beautiful and powerful image, but what about the child of an abusive father? Do we really want to insist that a person brought up by an evil man think of him every time they picture God? Even within our humanity – how much better off would we be if we could see God in our children when they exhibit qualities associated with the other sex? Instead of calling a boy who cries a sissy we affirmed him as sharing traits of God and told him that even Jesus wept?
God doesn’t have a sex, but she’s awesome and I’m glad to be her son.